The truth about why he disappeared? It’s related to his balls.

Dating guys in their 20s while you’re in your 30s has the potential to be a giant shitshow but it can also be wonderfully eye opening. Of course it completely depends on the maturity of that person, not their age. In my experience, his maturity level is indirectly linked to the size of his balls. In my experience, sizes vary.

The ones with a lack of balls will always be easy to spot, just pay attention to how they react when the conversation starts to get a little close to home. If it gets too close then he will divert the conversation elsewhere. Either he will change the topic, distract you by complimenting you, distract you by insulting you, distract you with something else, he might look visibly uncomfortable, he might be profusely sweating, his balls are definitely profusely sweating, he might project his own insecurities onto you to take the focus away from him, or there’s a man shaped hole in your door because he couldn’t get away fast enough.

“I wanted to tell you but I didn’t have the balls to”. Thanks for your honesty but seriously, how exactly is that my problem? If your balls aren’t big enough, blame it on biology or get on the floor and start searching. That’s the point where you need to realize you are wasting your time. His lack of balls are not your problem, grow your own balls. Don’t wait for his to grow, aint nobody got time for that.

You’re fabulous and you deserve nothing less than someone who is confident, not cocky, ambitious, not anxious, content and not confused about who they are, someone who’s encouraging, not egotistical, someone who’s sure and not scared. Don’t settle for anything less than someone who knows who they are and who’s following their dreams, that way, they’ll be able to encourage you to pursue yours.

Don’t get me wrong, having small balls doesn’t make him any less of a man. It just makes him much less likely to tell the truth when it comes down to it because he’s too afraid to confront it or too afraid of the reaction. In my 20s, I didn’t particularly like who I was and I spent a long time running from the things I didn’t want to see in myself. Ignorance is bliss after all, but temporary bliss nonetheless. Throughout my late 20s, I dealt with a lot of the things I had been running from and I faced the things that scared me about myself, it was painful and necessary. Now, in my 30s, I can definitely say that I am not only comfortable with who I am, I have a job which brings me nothing but joy and that I can excel in, I’m completely satisfied with the journey I’m on and with the incredible people that i’m fortunate enough to be surrounded by. But reaching this level of happiness and security only comes because of all of the hurt, confusion and learning curves you’ve experienced. It only comes because of all of the pieces of yourself you find from every relationship you form along the way and sometimes they have to fail to enable you to keep finding those pieces.

In the end it’s not worth settling for someone who’s full of themselves, they don’t have enough to teach you. No, the ones you should find are the ones who are sure of themselves. What’s the difference? Well, the ones who are sure of themselves will have no problem communicating what they do or don’t want and the others, well, that’s a whole different ballgame.

The ones who are confident enough about themselves and their own balls will have no problem going after what they want. If what they want is you then it will be crystal clear. In my experience, usually because if they’re really into you then they’ll most likely be f*****g your brains out, or at least wanting to. If he doesn’t want to then he’s probably not interested, it really is that simple. As women, we don’t do it any differently, we don’t continue being with someone we aren’t into. Some of us want to be thrown down and explored, so why waste your time with someone who isn’t giving you that. That usually only comes from the guys who are comfortable with going after what they want. If they want to devour you, they’ll make that clear, so if they’re not, well then don’t waste another minute, by wasting another minute you may be wasting a potential orgasm. And that my dear girl, is something that should never be wasted.