Girl, there’s plenty more to be had…

We’ve all been there at some point, going through a recent break up and already feeling like you’ve been shit on, when some bright spark tells you; “There’s plenty more fish in the sea”… Epic advice, thank you.

How about this instead… there’s plenty more interesting people to meet, plenty more people ready to explore you, sexually, mentally, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually, plenty more encounters that excite you; inspire you; that satisfy you, people that encourage you, people that see you through eyes as bright as your own, plenty more people who make you feel like all of your dreams are possible, plenty more people who show you that your dreams are not only possible but also in reach, plenty other people ready to understand you, to tease you, to experiment with you and most importantly to explore you. And let’s not forget, there’s plenty more guys to take home for a night, plenty new sexual experiences to try, guys to throw you down, plenty more guys in your city for a night, pleasure to be had, plenty more terrible tinder dates to laugh with your friends about and plenty more surprising tinder dates that might just catch you off guard and most importantly there’s plenty more people ready to light a fire in you. 

The world you create for yourself can be created by you and you only. So make sure you fill it with people that enrich it; with their company, with their advice, with their support and with their expert knowledge of who you are. There’s plenty more people who get it and who will get you without even trying. Fill it with those people and everything else has a way of falling into place around you. More often than not, this happens while you’re busy having too much fun with the people you’ve filled it with, so don’t focus on the ones that left. They have their own reasons for leaving, but that’s not relevant. I’m not saying it’s irrelevant, in fact, it’s extremely relevant, but only to them, they have some things of their own to figure out, but that’s their world and this is yours. 

So f*ck the fish in the sea, it has nothing to do with them. It has been and always will be about you. What changed in you after this experience, each time someone walks away from you, you get a little step closer to yourself. Some confuse you to the point where you’re screaming for clarity, I never realized it at the time either, but those are the moments to learn from. In those moments of confusion and rejection is where you’ll find who you really are, that vulnerable part of yourself that you don’t necessarily showcase to the world on a daily basis, that’s where you need to explore. In there, that’s where the beauty lies, the beauty of who you are and in my experience, there’s no better lesson to learn.