The one that got away? But what did he get away with…?

One of my exes once suggested that he might be the one that got away from me, so it got me thinking. The one that got away, even that term is all about the other person, but that’s not what’s important. What about you? Maybe you’re the one that got away, the one that left a mark, the one that helped them grow, the one that impacted them, the one that positively influenced their life; either by being in it or quite possibly by leaving it. That’s the thing, sometimes people just aren’t supposed to fit into each other’s lives, that’s not how it works, but that doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate each other and what you meant to each other at some point in time. Remember the beautiful anticipation you felt when this person showed up in your life, not knowing what was going to happen, not knowing where it was going. Either way, whether they work out or not, it doesn’t take away from the fact that relationships are enticing. Full of anticipation of what’s to come, full of the joy that sharing yourself with someone can bring and equally full of the pleasure it brings too.

Cherish those beautifully vulnerable moments you shared with this person and cherish the bad moments too, they’re all part of it. The bad moments that test you during a relationship, well they teach you what pushes your buttons, what your triggers might be and what you deem to be treated as you deserve. The bad moments that come from the end of a relationship are to be cherished too. Those are the ones that teach you; what you want, what you don’t want, what energies you want in your world, what people you allow into it, what people you allow access to your thoughts, your feelings and your world, they all ultimately affect us and how we choose to experience life.

The one that got away? I think there’s no such thing. No, that would imply that you lost something. When in fact, the opposite happened, you gained something, you gained another piece of the puzzle. He’s actually the one who showed you how to explore yourself, by walking away. You should always thank these people for leaving, they enriched your world by walking out of it. Wish them the best and start focusing on your own journey, your own story, your own world.

So what did he get away with? You can only lose what you have, you can’t lose what you are. Who you are is something that nobody should be able to take from you, if they do, it’s because you allowed them to. Never allow anyone to attempt to make you feel small, if they attempt to put out your light, well that’s because you shine. People who don’t feel good about themselves or their own life situation will automatically and mostly unconsciously attempt to make you feel just as crap as they do, misery loves company and all that. So when he leaves, you shouldn’t allow him to get away with anything. Hold your head up high and remember who you are and then use that failed relationship to figure out the lessons it’s there to teach you, learn from it and grow and watch him get away with absolutely nothing.

Even better than that, be the girl that got away to her own world, go there and indulge in it. Fill it with things that make you passionate, discover yourself through working hard, discover yourself through your failures, learn what lights a fire in you and explore a great deal of pleasure along the way, be her, be the girl that got away and found herself.