Why you should never need nor want an ex back….

I think we can only really figure out who we are by collecting little pieces of ourselves from each person we cross paths with, from those who stay and equally from those who don’t. The word ex can have so many negative connotations and sometimes for good reason. But there are other times where there is absolutely no need for it to have. After all, whether good or bad, these are people that at some point in time, we made the decision to share ourselves with. And if that’s the case, then who better to teach us about ourselves;

The Geordie –  The one that taught me how you should be loved

The Lesson –    The one that taught me how not to be loved

The Niñato –    The one that taught me what I don’t want

The Scientist – The one that taught me some men don’t have balls

The Believer –  The one that taught me that gentlemen still exist

The Elephant – The one that taught me how to fall in love with myself

What did they help you learn? How can they help you grow? Each time, what you want from a new relationship becomes clearer and clearer and each time helps you discover more about what really makes you, you.

From the uplifting relationships, you learn who you are capable of being. From the toxic ones, you learn what’s really worth your energy.

From the incredible ones, you learn that a relationship doesn’t need permanence to be incredible.

From the confusing ones, you learn how to find clarity.

And from the downright failures, you learn you and that’s the most beautiful lesson that exists.

Thank them for appreciating you at some point, for appreciating your mind, for appreciating your butt and then most importantly appreciate them for being an ex, that’s who they have to be to make way for the things to come.