The Female Orgasm: here’s why you shouldn’t accept any less than multiple…

What is it about the female orgasm that makes it so damn beautiful? At the top of the list of what makes it so damn beautiful is it’s ability to multiply. I used to think multiple orgasms were rare, that they were almost impossible to find, I was lucky if I even had one, I used to think it was me, that it was me that lacked the capacity to have multiple orgasms, I was wrong. The problem was never me, it was the quality of the sex I was having. Now that I am a lot more selective about who I allow access to my bed, I never leave without having had at least multiple.

There are a lot of factors that get in the way of a female reaching orgasm such as an inability to connect in that moment, low self-esteem, stress and sometimes the fear of getting pregnant. Our mind plays a big part in being able to reach orgasm, distractions or the inability to connect will make it extremely difficult to get there. Negative previous experiences, more often than not, can make it difficult to relax enough to allow yourself to reach orgasm. Some guys are so terribly unskilled at giving oral that I actually spent a while avoiding it, at times when I was offered, I turned it down, it only takes one to show you how it should be done which then makes your desire for it stronger than your fear. I actually found quite a few who are orgasmically skilled in that department.

I think you have to connect with yourself first before you are capable of connecting with others. Get to know yourself, know your worth and base your standards around it, learn what values are most important to you and what motivates you at the core. That way it becomes much easier to connect with others and allow them intimate access to you and your body. Getting to know yourself is a life long learning process, but its the most enriching thing you will ever learn. One thing I‘ve learned about myself is how much I love sex but not just any sex, passionate, primal, orgasmic sex is the only kind I accept nowadays. If I have terrible sex with someone, well I don’t return for more. I thoroughly enjoy having multiple orgasms, the ones that leave you breathless and writhing around in pleasure. Stick to the ones that leave you feeling nothing but satisfaction.

So what else is so great about the female orgasm? Well not only do they get better with age, they can also relieve pain, help with gaining self esteem and they are beneficial to both physical and mental development. And apart from that, they feel absolutely insane. Some words I would choose to summarize the female orgasm; euphoric, sensual, intimate and the really good ones feel like ecstasy. If you’re not having orgasms like this, I highly recommend making it a priority.

How can you tell if she’s having an orgasm? The female orgasm is an intense head to toe experience and so if you find yourself having to ask if she had one, then she didn’t. When a woman has an orgasm there is no way you can’t notice, it usually starts with some toe curling, everything starts to get a little hot, then you start to feel a tingling sensation throughout your whole body which starts at your centre and works it way outwards, until your mind goes numb and then your entire body goes into euphoria. Of course, it’s even more euphoric when they happen consecutively, multiple times. But for me, the most exciting part is the moments just before you climax when your entire body is writhing with pleasure and the only thought you have in your head is the impending ecstasy you’re about to feel.

How can you achieve orgasm? Well, undoubtedly masturbation will guarantee you with an orgasm every single time, we know our own bodies and we know exactly how to get there. With a sexual partner, reaching orgasm is not always guaranteed. There are ways you can teach your partner, the really good ones already know how to have you squirming with pleasure just by the way they kiss you, but if you find one who doesn’t know how to give you maximum pleasure, well you can show them with your body, show them where they need to go and where they need to touch to get you to your climax.

If a guy is not giving you orgasms, well I wouldn’t accept it. Females can have over 10 different types of orgasm, so if he’s not even giving you a single one, well then he isn’t trying hard enough. Females usually don’t have a recovery period after orgasm, that’s why they can have multiple, so he has a pretty big window of opportunity there. I highly recommend making multiple orgasms a priority at least once per week, find a guy who makes your body tingle with just one kiss, one that makes your thighs feel hot with just a look, a cheeky look that tells you exactly what’s on his mind, a look that tells you how much pleasure he’s thinking about giving you. The ones that make you feel respected inside and outside the bedroom, they’re usually the ones that make you feel nothing but insatiable inside the bedroom for hours and hours on end, multiple times over.