SLUT-Shaming; who gets to decide?

What is a SLUT? The term SLUT is thrown around on a daily basis and yet nobody can seem to define what it is or what the requirements are to be labelled one. Some people say a SLUT is someone who gets paid for sex, according to Google a SLUT is “a woman who has many casual sexual partners”, my question is why only a woman? So what’s a “man who has many casual sexual partners”? A fucking hero apparently.

SLUT requirements: Who gets to decide who’s a SLUT and who isn’t a SLUT? How many guys do I have to sleep with for me to be considered a SLUT? How short does my skirt need to be? What about how red my lipstick is? How many male friends I have? How much cleavage I show? How tall my heels are? How long my nails are? Is there a course I can take? A certificate I can take home?

What are the requirements to be a SLUT? Sleeping with 50 people? 100 people? Or is it how many people I fuck each week? Is it the type of sex I’m having? Am I a SLUT if I have anal sex? Oral sex? Mediocre sex? If I get gangbanged? If I have sex with someone I never see again? If I fuck someone without even knowing their name? Or is it because I fuck both men and women? Or is it because I talk about sex openly? Or is it because I’m a woman who does so?

Sparking reactions: Simply by being a woman who enjoys casual sex, it’s enough to spark a reaction in some, it’s enough to make people feel the need to judge or comment on my active sex life. I receive a variation of reactions such as “wow, you have no shame right?” Yeah, this one always makes me laugh. Shame comes with feeling remorseful over something, why would I ever feel remorse for having orgasms? Also, shame about what exactly? About having sex? Or is it because I’m a woman who talks about it openly? Because when guys talk about it openly, they’re usually met with high fives and “yeah bruhhh’s”, yet when I do it, I should feel shame? You’re barking up the wrong pussy.

The definition of SLUT: SLUT is a dirty word, but dirty in a good way, we shouldn’t stop using it, we should take it and own it. Since every person has their own definition of what a SLUT is, then you can make up your own. I define a SLUT as someone who is sexually liberal, who fully embraces their sensuality and sexuality and who enjoys sex without shame. I find being in tune with my sexuality nothing but empowering and orgasmic.

Why do we get SLUT-shamed? Nobody actually cares what you do with your body or how often you have sex, their judgement of your sex life is purely a reflection of their own, or possibly their own lack of. It’s much easier to hurl insults at the girl who’s getting banged regularly than admit or accept that you’re not. We tend to judge things we don’t understand or things we’re envious of and we can’t help but judge the things we don’t have the balls to do ourselves. Personally, I don’t find time to judge the sex lives of others because I’m usually balls deep in my own.

So who gets to decide? You and only you, never allow others to put their labels onto you, make your own label. If you wanna be a SLUT, then go for it, if you want to talk about sex openly then you should, whenever you are met with judgement, just remember that it says a great deal more about the person giving it than it does about you. Chase orgasms and adventure, unleash your inner SLUT and enjoy each and every orgasm and sexual adventure it brings. Explore the beauty of your sexuality, whatever your sexual preferences may be, explore the wonderfully instinctual strength that being in tune with your sexuality brings. Enjoy the power you have over what to do with your body and who you allow access to it.

Why you shouldn’t give a fuck: In order to hurl the word SLUT at someone, that means you have already created an identity in which you believe that person fits, based on what? What requirements? And the term SLUT, once given, has the habit of sticking, once you have that label it is difficult to shake it off. My advice is don’t shake it off, take it and wear it with pride, glorious SLUTTY pride. And if you are going to unleash your inner SLUT then make sure you do it the only way that’s right, make sure you do it shamelessly.

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